How Do You Know They Are The One?

Here comes the finale of our relationship segments, just in case you missed it. The title to this blog came about through a question one of our friends asked us and we discussed about it: We felt the need to address it so here are some answers to the question, “How do you know they’re the one?”:

1. Have a connection: In order to know they’re the one, you have to have a connection with them. When we say connection we mean physical, emotional, and spiritual connection. All these are really important as you intend to be in a relationship with this person. Ladies, take care of yourself by getting your eyebrows, hair, manicure and pedicure done. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying go break the bank just to please this individual NO! However, keeping your physical body presentable is important. Now, you might be one that says “I don’t get my eyebrows or manicure and pedicure done because God created me that way” Guess what! God don’t like ugly (words from my husband) but that’s between you and your significant other and, if that works for you, that’s really what matters. Hopefully, if you don’t care about physical connection, you would certainly see the value in having an emotional and spiritual connection.

2. Prayer: This is top one for me because I believe when you ask God specifically to show you if this is the right person to be with, He will make it clear to you. I remember asking God to show me who Peter is and God responded and started telling me deep things I didn’t even know concerning my now husband. I was so overwhelmed that I bursted crying out loud and just thanked God for this revelation. It is very possible that you can ask God for “The One” and He will reveal it to you. Don’t move forward if you haven’t prayed.

3. Confirmation: Once you have prayed, be patient enough to hear your confirmation. Don’t let flesh and your own will take over the voice of God. God still speaks so wait until He gives you the direction to move forward or not. Sometimes we are too quick to say it’s from God when we know it’s not. I encourage you to trust God in making this life decision because it’s definitely WORTH THE WAIT.

For more, check out my YouTube channel to see the video I just recently did. Stay blessed and continue to be inspired.


Thankful Thursday

Thankful Thursday goes out to the stories below:

There was a day when she came up with the name of her company. She amazes me with everything she does and the crazy thing is that she’s only seventeen! She is an aspiring fashion designer and tailor who’s bringing you nothing but the latest eccentric and cultural attire. Goodness is her name and her clothing line is called “G-Styles.” Below is a sneak peak of some of her work and this is just a little snippet of what’s to come, so be on the lookout.


Get your styles and measurements ready because, once it’s up, she will be very busy and, trust me when I say, she’s very good at what she does. Below is her information:
Twitter: @_gstyles

Favour is my awesome sister as well. I call her my “Melanin Queen”.


She has her own company called “Favyn Collection” which is doing phenomenally well. She launched her company around this time last year and has sold extensions to so many clients around the world. She started Fayvn Collection to cater to people who didn’t have a lot of money to spend on hair. Favour offers affordable services for people that want to look and feel good without feeling like they’ve spent their entire paycheck on extensions. Not only does she supply and distribute hair extensions, she makes them herself.


Below is all the information you need to reach out to her:

These beautiful sisters of mine are very hardworking and I am extremely proud of their accomplishments. They are young entrepreneurs who are ambitious and know what they want. Please help me to thank them and make sure you show them some love by supporting their businesses.


Do you have a family member who is an entrepreneur? Leave your comments below and I’m planning on doing a business segments one of these months. Stay blessed and be inspired. #adakuinspires

Product Review

Today, I would like to take a moment to recognize a product I have been using for the past seven weeks now. My friend Donna introduced me to it and I’m very happy with the product. It’s called Lash Boost by Rodan + Fields. If you are asking by now “what is this product about,” well let me enlighten you.


Lash Boost is a nightly eyelash conditioning serum that pairs with any R+F Regimen to enhance the natural appearance of your lashes in just 4 weeks; for lashes that are fuller-looking, longer-looking, and darker-looking so that you can feel beautiful anytime, anywhere.

I have gotten compliments on my lashes because people thought it wasn’t real. Before going into this product, I was hesitant about it but I still wanted to give it a try. It doesn’t hurt to try something every now and then, right? Anyway, I’m glad I did. I am seeing an improvement and it’s been gradual, but worthwhile.


Consistency is key to seeing this product work. If you don’t apply it as your nightly routine, then you might not get the result you’re looking for. Call or message Donna if you’re interested in this product or even becoming part of her team. She’s amazing and I will leave all her information below. Have an amazing day and hope you keep looking fabulous! xoxo

Donna Snyder
Independent Consultant


Thankful Thursday

I don’t know about you but my heart jumps in excitement when I get a call from this lovely lady right here.


She demands to watch Kizzy while hubby and I have a date day. Oh! Did I mention that she wants me to make sure she has a lot of chores to do during her stay with Kizzy? God, thank You for loving me so much that You keep sending people who truly and genuinely care about my family. It’s amazing because, when you keep pouring out your time on other people who need help, God will take care of you. This week was extremely busy for me but I’m very grateful taking care of my Father’s business. With all that happened, which I’m not going into details, God’s love is unconditional to those that trust in Him. So, if you’re reading this and you feel like your week hasn’t been going the way it should, trust in God because an angel is coming your way. As for me, I’m out enjoying my date day with hubby while my angel takes care of my princess. Be blessed and stay inspired.


Tips to Maintaining A Healthy Relationship


In the beginning, everything seems beautiful and life’s a bliss. Before the responsibilities, arguments, and kids, you were thinking of ways to spend more quality time. As the year dwindles down, you’re contemplating ways to get away on your own. It’s a process that a lot of relationships go through and this process can also strengthen your bond: the more you overcome together, the stronger you become. Hubby and I have been doing these series since the beginning of June and it’s been a great turn out. The responses we’re getting is truly encouraging and it’s all under five minutes. Due to limited time, I decided to elaborate more on those tips we mentioned on a recent video we did. Hopefully these elaborated tips will reignite the spark and uphold your chemistry well after the first few years:

Remain best friends: This is probably my favorite tip because we are each other’s best friends. We finish each other’s sentences without even knowing and we see eye to eye in so many things. We have that connection that sometimes we don’t need to say a word but just by looking at each other, it says everything.
Always remain genuine: Don’t try to put on a facade. Be YOU. Be comfortable and confident in who God has made you to be. Your partner wants you to be comfortable with them. You don’t want to be someone today and the next day, you’re a different person; I’m not talking about hair or physical changes that are bound to happen, but more of personality changes. Don’t try to switch your personality like it’s not affecting your partner.
Have fun: I don’t know about you, but doing the same routine everyday and all the time can quickly kill the spark. Switch it up and break out of routine as often as you can. Create silly moments, travel with your partner, even if it’s a road trip from Baltimore to California (yes! We’re crazy like that and we did it! Best memory ever but we definitely won’t do it again). Try new restaurants and take up new hobbies even if it’s something out of your comfort zone. The whole idea is finding joy in the fact that you’re engaging in a different activity with your partner.
Never sleep upset at each other: When we got married, a lady from our church bought us two boxes of chocolate. At first we thought we were to indulge in them but she left a note saying that the chocolate were to be used ONLY when we have intense conversations. Then, we can make it up by having a chocolate. What a genius idea! We only used half of one box and after two years, we threw them away. We have formed the habit of not going to sleep upset at each other. My husband does not EVEN accept it at all so I’m blessed to have a man like that.
Communication: There’s a right way to communicate with your partner. Don’t try to bombard them with all your problems and issues as soon as they walk through the door especially after a long day at work. Ask them how their day went. Find out their plans and see how you can help in that plan. Bring up one subject, not thirty after they unwind. It’s important to listen to each other before responding. Make sure you are having a comfortable conversation because your partner is more likely to be receptive if you’re already engaged in a comfortable conversation.

I hope these tips really help you with your relationship. There are more we can share at a later date but, in the meantime, stay blessed and inspired.


Thankful Thursday: Celebrating YOU


Hey everyone, guess what!! It’s Thursday and I thank you for joining my Thankful Thursday. I decided to switch things up and dedicate this Thursday to you, my readers and supporters. I would like you to use the comment section below and write about what makes you thankful today. I believe when we share what we are thankful for with one another, it’s an opportunity for gratitude to deepen in our heart. It’s also a way to promote the spirit of gratitude in a world of negativity and discontent. It is within a grateful heart that we can find peace, contentment, and happiness. Looking forward to all that you have to share. May God continue to bless you abundantly. #adakuinspires

Reflecting on Something Deep



Looking at this picture that I took a couple of weeks ago, it reminds me of the beauty of God. I have been reflecting a lot recently on my goals and what I have set my mind to accomplish since the beginning of this year. It’s amazing to see so many people set goals for themselves at the beginning of every year and not follow through it until the end. Sometimes they fall off the wagon just half way (or even earlier) and they give up easily.
Life takes a toll on us all but what matters is how you continue to persevere.

Anyway, going back to what I was saying on reflection. As I am reflecting on the things I set my mind to do, especially with the help of God, I began to see doors that I never even thought of going into opening up for me so quickly. As always I get emotional because God’s promises are forever. These doors are beyond my imagination and, when the right time comes, I’ll share them with you. Some of these doors that God wants me to go into has to do with these areas:
1. Relationships with people whether married or single
2. My career and how God is making some major shifts that is already blowing my mind right now.
3. Families who are in desperate need for the hand of God

Psalm 23:1-end has become my everyday inspiration because I know the Word of God is truth so I claim that chapter. Sometimes I feel like things aren’t going the way I want it to go but that’s when God steps right in. He reaches out His hand for us to hold on to finish the race. I don’t know about you but I’m all sold out for God and I want whatever His plans are for me to come to pass. I’m tired of trying it out on my own and I completely surrender to His will over my life.

Part of the reflection I was doing had to do with the relationships that our dear friends face in life. Sometimes it’s with an issue of not finding the right life partner, or holding off on sexual intimacy until you find the right partner, finding the right partner but not knowing how to keep up the spice in the relationship, not happy with the person you married, and so much more that I can point out. These are issues people we know are facing and it’s so dear to my heart. With all that being said, hubby and I started a relationship series on my YouTube channel. Below is a link for you to watch some of the topics we’ve touched so far. We plan to do a few more in the upcoming weeks and if you have any questions whatsoever, please share them in the comment section below. We might consider it and do a video on that so make sure you click that link.
Thank you so much for staying in this journey with me. You all make me feel so comfortable to open up to you especially when God keeps downloading things on me. I’m thankful for using this platform to share my heart and to be bold enough to speak nothing but the TRUTH. I encourage you to stay in God and don’t let anything or anyone stop you from pursuing God. I bless you beautiful people and I’ll see you in my next one. #adakuinspires

Thankful Thursday

Let’s just say today’s Thankful Thursday is very dear to my heart. These two amazing women, whom I get the privilege to call moms, showered us with lots and lots of love this past weekend. Let’s start with Mommy Ikotun who had our eight month old daughter over for a weekend. In addition to that, some girls from her church demanded to have a sleepover if our daughter was present. This was heaven for our baby Kizzy because she loves being around people (hmm! I wonder where she gets that from?). Her first night wasn’t that easy for mom especially at night time but we encouraged her to keep baby girl for the rest of the weekend (hubby insisted that she stays there but, as a mom, I wanted her back home so I bit my tongue). Needless to say, she was better for the rest of the weekend while hubby and I got a lot done without any distractions from our baby. I’m sure some of you can relate to this.


Moving on to Mommy Nwanguma who happened to be off that weekend as well, and came and spent her Saturday with me. We had our mommy daughter date and it was AWESOME! I don’t get to do this all the time because my mom is in school and works full time so she’s very busy. Her times off are so precious to me and I value every moment. We went grocery shopping together and she bought a lot of stuff for us that blew my mind away and we were stuffing the fridge with lots of goodies. We cooked, ate, and just laughed sharing some stories together.


Later that evening we went to see our baby girl because she couldn’t have left without seeing her granddaughter. There’s nothing like having these two moms around. From taking our baby girl away over the weekend so that hubby and I can have quality time, to filling the fridge up with lots of groceries. I don’t know about you, but I was spoiled and it was an unforgettable weekend. As a mom, I get so excited when God sends help at the moment when you need it most and he sent me with the best. It’s rare for the both moms to be off at the same time but with God all things are possible. This is just one of the many things they’ve done for us and I’m forever grateful to have these beautiful women as my mommy.

Help me in thanking them. Hey! What’s your Thankful Thursday? Leave your comments below and share some aha moments that you’re thankful for. Be blessed and always stay thankful.


Quick and Healthy Fruit Smoothie Recipe


There’s nothing like having fun while taking a light-hearted approach to getting healthy. Healthy smoothies can be a great way for anybody to start the day with. Ok, maybe not just for the mornings, but it can also be used for an afternoon snack, or dessert. I literally call them an ideal fuel-on-the-go. They taste so good and contains a lot of vitamins and nutrients. My eight month old loves this already and she’s looking for more. So my beautiful readers, if you are looking for a refreshing way to enjoy your splendid day, follow the recipe below to be the best version of yourself.


. 1 cup fresh strawberries
. 1/2 cup blueberries
. 1 cup seedless red grapes
. 1/2 cup baby carrots
. 1/2 cup dates (good source of minerals, energy, sugar, and fiber)
. 1 banana
. 1 fresh red apple
. 1 teaspoon lime
. 1/2 cup ice


1. Combine strawberries, blueberries, red grapes, baby carrots, dates, banana, red apple, lime, and ice in a blender
2. Blend until smooth and frothy

tempImageForSaveCheers to a healthy you!


Thankful Thursday



I’m not only thankful for a new month with the new things that are happening already for me and a fresh start on things I had to let go, but I am forever thankful for my beautiful sister right here. She graduated this week with honors and I couldn’t be more proud of her. My family was there to support her and cheer her on as she walked across the stage. Goodness is such an intelligent girl. Not only did she win her class prom queenIMG_0280

but she also started a business while in school called “G Styles”. This business will be in full production next year summer and she is already planning for it now. I have had the opportunity to watch her walk down the runway several times and I couldn’t believe how good she is as a model.

I was extremely shocked when, in one of her shows, she was the fashion designer of twenty models who walked across the stage with all the outfits she made for them with their many different shapes and styles. Oh! did I mention she made her graduation outfit below?IMG_0536As a fashion stylist myself, I was so proud of this hardworking girl. She also graduated with honors all through high school and is going to college with a full scholarship. My parents are so proud of their children and especially for Goodness because she’s the last one to graduate from high school and will soon be off to college. Mom recently said “I can’t believe my baby has graduated and is going off to college”. Sorry mom, but your baby is now a lady who is getting ready to face the real world.

IMG_0722I couldn’t help myself but to dedicate my Thankful Thursday to a young lady who I am so proud of and who has inspired me to keep pushing forward; no room to give up. I love you Goodie and can’t wait to see what the future holds for you. A big CONGRATULATIONS again!

Who in your family are you thankful and proud for graduating high school or college? Share below so that I can congratulate them as well. Stay blessed and be inspired.